Wednesday, August 3, 2011
How do I move on after a break up?
I am 18 (a senior in high school) and my boyfriend and I just broke up. We had been together for more than 2 years, and had been doing long distance since August. He lived only 3 hours away and we saw each other quite a bit, but it was still really hard. In the couple weeks before we broke up he had been distant, acted weird when I saw him, didn't want to cuddle or kiss, etc, but we were still getting along well and talking like we always did. Finally, last Tuesday he came home from school and we had a long talk about our relationship. He said he didn't want as serious of a relationship with too much responsibility, which I actually agreed with. But even when I told him, "This just sounds like you want to be friends" (based on other things he had said) he said "No, I still want to go out with you. And I still love you." And he sounded genuine. But he continued to act the same way and was not treating me like his girlfriend, so on Thursday I asked him once again "Are you sure you don't want to just be friends?" and finally he said "I'm not sure, I've been thinking about that a lot." Then I asked him if he still loved me and he said "I'm not sure... I don't think I do." We split somewhat amicably but it was definitely one sided, and I feel absolutely heartbroken. It's been over a week since he dumped me and I'm still crying every day and I still feel heartbroken. My feelings are fluctuating every five seconds - sometimes I hate him for not being honest, sometimes I wish he would just call me and apologize, sometimes I feel ready to move on forever, and almost all of the time I am thinking about him and I miss him more than anything. I feel like I'm ready to move past the "wallowing" stage and move on, but I don't know how. Does anyone have any suggestions on healthy ways for me to truly move on? Anyone else experienced something similar? Thank you so so much.
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