Single mother needs advice...?

I am not an attorney so this advise is only from experience. Has your ex financially supported his daughter and does he plan to support his unborn child? If not then you should contact your local Department of Human Resources and start the process of getting child support. Please don't say you don't want any support from him because this is not your money. This money belongs to your children for their health and well being and that's what you need spend that money on. Although you and he have not lived together does not make him any less responsible for raising and supporting your kids. As far as decisions regarding their lives that depends on how involved their father wants to be. If he is attempting to be a participating father on a day to day basis and not just an every other weekend kind of guy, then he will want to be as involved as possible, and that's a good thing. As for the daycare, unless he is on the list of authorized people allowed to pick up your children he will not be allowed to so. You are the primary care giver and the primary custodian and you should always make that clear any time your children are under someone Else's care. Please keep in mind that when you are dealing with two households that the children's needs come first. Some times I hear mothers talking about not letting the father pick up the kids because the child support payment had not arrived. Visitation has nothing to do with child support. Just because he's broke doesn't mean he stopped being their father. Just remember - it's not about you and it's not about him, it about the children. Hope this helps and if you can afford to do so please check with an attorney. Good Luck